On Self-Love.

On Self-Love.

On February 11, the Sunday before Valentine’s Day, I gathered together to celebrate with a bunch of wonderful women. Celebrate each other. Celebrate ourselves. And you know what I noticed as we went around the room sharing a glimpse into our hearts? Every single person liked something about themselves that is completely and utterly intangible.

Physicality can only lift you up so high before its efforts become futile. Find intangible qualities in yourself and spend your life passionately cultivating them. That is true self-love.

 

Far too often in our millennial minds, we confuse self-love with self-appeasement. We live to indulge our fleeting pleasures in the name of “self-care.” Loving yourself is more than doing face masks or buying yourself new clothes or makeup or trinkets every other day.

True self-love demands self-respect. It requires a deeply rooted sense of self– an awareness. You cannot begin to love yourself until you take yourself seriously.

I’ve recently explored the idea of self-respect. What is it? How do we get it? Is it inherent or learned? One of the most impressive essays I’ve found about the topic was Joan Didion’s 1961 essay published in Vogue. Check out these excerpts.

“In brief, people with self-respect exhibit a certain toughness, a kind of moral nerve; they display what was once called character, a quality which, although approved in the abstract, sometimes loses ground to other, more instantly negotiable virtues.”

“Nonetheless, character—the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life—is the source from which self-respect springs.”

I suppose this is just an attempt at an eloquent reminder to stretch beyond the cultural standard of surface level self-care. Dare to pull back the shimmering veil from your picturesque life and see who you are– who you really are.

 

No, Your News Shouldn’t Be Free.

No, Your News Shouldn’t Be Free.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard people complain about their limits with online news. (Don’t worry, I’ve done my fair share of complaining.) But have you considered why you have to pay?

You pay a photographer for prints. You pay a doctor for a diagnosis. You pay an accountant to do your taxes.

You pay a newspaper for their stories. Those journalists work hard to get the interviews they need, compile the stories, edit the articles, and send it to the printer so that you can be informed.

You don’t deserve to get your news for free.

“The truth is a big part of the blame for this industry’s dire straits is on us and our unwillingness to pay for the work journalists produce.” John Oliver couldn’t have stated it better.

Our job is to inform the public. We can’t do that properly if you kick us to the curb, beat us, criticize us, and then demand our work for free.

 

That’s all.

KV